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New Reward System

on March 20, 2012

I’ve mentioned earlier that food was often a club I used to beat up on myself.   It was also a reward.   How many times did I decide to “treat” myself with something scrumptious, rich, tasty and calorie-laden?  Special occasions, cool accomplishments, making it through a stressful day, making it through a not-stressful day.  It didn’t matter, delicious food was a way to reward myself for anything and everything.

I can’t reward myself with food anymore, at least not in the same way.  I guess when I start eating beef again, I can treat myself to an excellent piece of Kobe, even if I only eat a little at a time, but I’d far rather devise a new reward system for myself.

Most of the rewarding things that come to mind cost money.  I believe, in my newly growing self-esteem, that I’m worth the expense, but I can also justify spending the money on myself.  I’m eating so little that my weekly tab at the supermarket has dropped considerably.  I think it’s beyond okay for me to take some of what I used to spend on food and splurge on something that provides a boost of positive reinforcement to me for all of the hard work I’m putting into my weight loss and the ensuing progress and success.

I love being pampered.  I already get my nails done every other week and a pedicure done monthly.  I usually get a facial every couple of months, but I think that I’m going to make a point of scheduling one for myself on a more consistent basis.   All of the potions, lotions, masks, and massaging make me physically feel terrific and they also make my skin look great.  Super reward!

I adore fresh flowers in my house, so buying a bouquet to treat myself is another good reward.

Clothes shopping isn’t as much of a treat.  It’s more of a necessity, particularly the more weight that I lose.  So, going on a shopping spree doesn’t feel like as much of a reward.  So, what else can I do?  Oh, I musn’t forget my Promise List.  I can’t do some of those things yet, but when I’ve lost enough weight and regained enough fitness, you better believe that I will relish experiencing each of the promised activities.  I’m positive that visiting Hawaii sometime in the future will be very rewarding, and that’s just one thing on my growing list.

I guess I don’t need to design all of my rewards right now.  The most important thing is that I remember that I am worthy of being rewarded.   Yes, sure, some folks could say that living a healthier lifestyle is its own reward.  They aren’t incorrect, but where’s the fun in stopping with that explanation?

Every step we take on the journey to our goals takes effort, energy and commitment.  It’s important to remember that and pay ourselves on the back every once in awhile.

How do you reward yourself?  What makes you feel particularly great?  Don’t know?  Then what steps can you take to discover your own rewards?

6 responses to “New Reward System

  1. londonmabel says:

    Books and music! But I’m trying to slow down on books cause I own a zillion. …But there’s always room for a new 99 cent song right? 🙂

  2. Judie says:

    It is hard to find a reward system that works, but it sounds like you are on the right track.

    An award awaits you on my blog…no requirements, just take it and pass it on.

  3. Skye says:

    I’m trying to figure out new rewards that aren’t food and that cost little or nothing (being still on the broke end of the financial spectrum). I have binged on food. I have binged on clothing and books. I have to not binge on anything. Plus, I’m trying to break a sugar addiction and start eating healthier and exercising. So, I got nothing so far for reward ideas. But I am thinking, which itself is a breakthrough.

  4. pinkpelican says:

    I still haven’t decided what my reward is for huge milestones. And really, I’ve reached several milestones, I’ve felt quite happy, and then I’ve moved on.

    I’m still trying to figure out how to celebrate getting under 200 pounds (which is only 38 pounds away), and how to celebrate 175, which is my general goal for lifelong maintenance and health. If I get any smaller than that, while being healthy & fit, I’ll probably just pass out from the shock.


    It seems weird that I can’t think of anything off the top of my head for such a major celebration, but then again, it seems that it’s a celebration in and of itself just to reach the goals.

    I’ll be reading here regularly to see if anybody else’s ideas inspire me. ;=)

  5. Food is such and EASY reward. I mean it’s only a few steps away in the kitchen. Other rewards take more effort. But you are right, they, and I, are worth the effort. Because of you, I scheduled a pedicure and facial this week. It’s been months since I had a pedi and years since I had a facial and I really love having both. Plus I have eaten only one of the brownies that boy child baked last weekend and that was when they were warm and he was standing there asking me to try what he baked.

  6. invisiblebetty says:

    I understand the food-as-reward mindset. Growing up, food was my family’s way of expressing affection. These days I try to avoid doing that, but it’s a tough habit to break. I treat myself with something “just for me” each week – fresh flowers for my desk at work, a new book, bright pink nail polish – something like that – instead of grazing in the kitchen.

    Life can be a challenge sometimes. I think it’s important to remember to celebrate the positives and reward ourselves along the way.

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