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After Hurricane Irma

Hi Everyone,

Again, I apologize for letting this blog lapse the last few months. 

Now, here I am, days after Hurricane Irma gave a direct bitch slap to the Florida Keys and went up the state. The aftermath is ugly, my friends. Pure and simple. 

Fortunately, my house did not flood. My roof only lost a few shingles and isn’t leaking. I have minimal inside damage from some wind driven rain at a single window. My cars, which both had to be left behind, are also okay. 

Outside, my fence is destroyed, I’ll need a new shed, and my boat lift is beyond repair. (How happy am I that I didn’t replace my boat last year?)

The oddest thing is that someone’s sailboat snapped its line in the harbor and eventually was tossed up onto my seawall. Thank God, it did not hit my house!

As far as Dolphin Research Center, I can’t describe the extreme joy we felt when the brace stay-behind crew reconnected with us via satellite phone after the storm and told us that they and all of the dolphins and sea lions were fine!

Our facility sustained some damage that we will rebuild. 

Conditions in our city are rough. Essential services are being restored but, as of this writing, power/water/sewer are still inconsistent and the water that is flowing is not potable. 

While I am filled with gratitude that I have a home to return to, I am heartsick for many of my DRC family and other friends in town. Many of them experienced extreme flooding in the houses they own or, mostly, rent. They lost most of their possessions. It is hard enough to find affordable places to rent and, with so much destroyed, this will border on impossible. 

Factor in that our economy is dependent on tourism, and many will be in dire straits. The Florida Keys hopes to reopen for tourists by October 15th and, hopefully, tourists will return. DRC will be closed until then so we do not have that revenue.

We are a nonprofit organization and have already turned to our members and others to ask for donations to sustain us so that we can continue to provide the finest care for our animal family and restore our facility to be ready to reopen. 

I am blessed with so many friends outside the Keys who ask if and how they can help me. Truthfully, the best way that anyone can help me is to help my DRC home and family. If you can spare anything at all, please donate at http://www.dolphins.org/general_donation.

Thank you all for your caring and concern. 

Here’s a picture of that boat on my property. Mother Nature is a powerful force. 


All Clear!

A couple of days ago, I met with my orthopedic surgeon for my three month followup appointment. Technically, we were three months plus a week or so, but no big deal. ūüôā

I walked in feeling confident and, admittedly, eager to see what the expert would have to say about my progress and recovery. In a nutshell – he was very pleased! He examined my knee, checked the extension, and we talked about the marks I reached in physical therapy.

At my last couple of P.T. appointments, I’d managed 120 degrees of flexion (bending) with my knee on my own. The doctor said that his minimum goal is 110 degrees and that the average at this point is 117 degrees. So, I surpassed the average. (I hope he wasn’t making that up.) He also said that as I continue to exercise and heal, I may achieve an additional five to ten degrees.

I told him that I’d made it as far as two degrees for extension, not quite zero degrees. I asked me to straighten my leg for him. Then he said what my therapist said, and what I’ve realized. Two degrees won’t make much difference at all and, even that may improve.

We then discussed the difference in strength between the leg with the replaced knee and the other one. He reminded me that my right knee had been compromised and weaker for several years so I needed to be patient and accept that it was going to take time and work to bet it even with my left leg. We both agreed that I’d done myself a lot of good getting as fit as possible before the surgery and that this had no doubt helped me with my recovery.

I then asked the big question on my mind. Could I return to all normal, desired activity including rowing classes and riding my bike on the street? The surgeon looked at me and said he wanted me to forget any restrictions, go out and do whatever I wanted. He was so pleased and happy with my recovery level that he decided he didn’t need to see me again for another follow up until the year anniversary of my surgery!

Then he did something kind of cute. He called up the x-ray that they took of my leg in the operating room after he installed my prosthetic knee. It’s like he was so happy with how good it looked and fit that he wanted to show it off. We spent a moment in mutual admiration before he gave me a hug and said he’d see me in nine months.

I strode out of the office feeling pretty darned good about the whole experience. Considering that as late as last October, I was still resistant to the whole idea of knee replacement and desperately hoping for another alternative, I’ve clearly come a long way – emotionally as well as physically.

So what now? I continue to do exercises at home that were recommended by my physical therapists. I also do foundation exercises from Tai Chi every day. I think the danyus, which look similar to squats, but are actually different, are great for building strength in my legs. Toryus, which I’ve now tried three times to write a description about and failed, are not only good for building strength as a weight bearing exercise, but I can really feel the stretch i my legs. So I figure they might also assist with the straightening and extension.

All of Tai Chi is good for the entire body and I’m rededicated to my practice. I can already feel improved stability because of the replaced knee and I’m gradually regaining and improving my balance on one leg or the other, standing up tall on one leg, and other movements. I had a realization when I started doing Tai Chi standing again. Previously, while learning and practicing the moves, I was always compensating in some way for the bad knee. To some extent, I need to relearn it with my new knee. No doubt I will eventually be better at than I was before. I just need to go through the process. Not only am I willing to do so, but I realize that I will enjoy it. I think it makes me a better student and practitioner to be aware of the change and the new level of ability that I didn’t have before.

Tonight I also booked myself into an early rowing class for tomorrow morning. It will be my first day back. I’m excited and looking forward to seeing crew mates from the months and months that we worked out together. At the same time, I am fully aware that I have not done a lot of cardio exercise in almost four months. I have to remember to pace myself in the morning and work my way back up to the fitness level that I had achieved before my surgery. After that, I can look forward to surpassing that level!

Now that I’m all clear, it’s going to be really fun to discover what life, activity and exercise are like without a bad knee. I’m ready for this journey into a newer, fitter future.


Twelve Weeks, Moving On!

I knew that recovery from my total knee replacement would take work. I didn’t anticipate that it isn’t just the physical work of therapy, but the task of rolling those therapy appointments into my life. Let me start by saying that I am incredibly fortunate to work for an organization that never blinked and was nothing but supportive. All I had to do was say, “I need to leave at 2:45 p.m today for p.t.” Their answer was always along the lines of, “Okay. Hope it goes well. See you tomorrow.”

Granted, they know that I will always put in my time and make up work at home, but I’m sure that not every company or organization is as easily accommodating. I am grateful.

Last Wednesday was the 12 week mark. I can hardly believe that three months have passed. I am doing so well. Not perfect, but who is? Most of the time I am pain free, and when I do experience discomfort, it tends to be a little ache or an occasional twinge when I’ve been working hard. I haven’t taken an opioid pain pill of any strength in several weeks. I rarely even need to take Extra Strength Tylenol any more, even after a physical therapy session.

It used to be that if you put your hands on my knees, you could feel increased heat on the right knee and that indicated that there was still healing to be accomplished. Now, I might feel a temperature difference after physical activity, but it isn’t significant.

The improvement is real and evident. Friday was my last physical therapy appointment. I’ve been paying for them out of pocket for the last few weeks. (My insurance only authorized 20 sessions.) I would continue to do so, but the therapist feels that we’ve accomplished all that we’re going to with his help. Him pushing, pulling or otherwise manipulating the leg is not going to get it to straighten any further.

The good news is that I’m only two degrees from that full extension. Honestly, I don’t notice any difference. I don’t limp when I walk. I’m not tight and hobbling when I get out of bed or stand up from a chair. I can feel the stability in the joint that wasn’t there before.

It’s awesome as far as I’m concerned! For the flexion, I can bend my knee 120 degrees on my own, without their help. That’s a pretty good range of motion. I don’t know what it was before surgery, but I’m sure it was less.

The only issue that remains is that the right leg is still significantly weaker than the left. I have work still to do in order to build that back up and get myself even strength-wise. The therapists gave me exercises I can do at home and I’m also going to take advantage of their wellness package to go in three days a week and work with the machines that were part of my therapy routine. I don’t need their help to do the exercises they’ve taught me on the universal gym and the other equipment, so I can keep using those tools to improve.

When I first had the surgery, the senior Tai Chi instructors cautioned me to not do the moves from a standing position for three months and the therapists agreed. I needed to give the bones of my leg time to grow in around the prosthetic. In the beginning, it wasn’t difficult for me to do Tai Chi moves while seated. I couldn’t have stood and done the pivots and other moves anyway.

Only as I began to improve, did the restriction begin to chaffe. Finally about two weeks ago, I began doing danyus. (They look similar to squats, just for your frame of reference.) I knew that the move would help to strengthen and stretch my legs without twisting or putting anything at risk. Closer to the 12 week mark, I added toryus, which give me excellent leg stretch and also encourage each leg to really work. I also did the first 17 moves of the Tai Chi set, after carefully determining that if I did the moves correctly, I was not going to hurt my recovery.

Being able to return, even this much, to Tai Chi did me a world of good. Tai Chi’s benefits go beyond the physical, to the mental and emotional, too. Doing the foundations and the beginning of the set settle me and help me focus. The practice is good for reducing stress. It absolutely does help me physically, but the additional benefits matter just as much.

Yesterday, I did my first full “standing” class. I was smart about it and didn’t push myself or my knee to the risky zone. However, when we closed with a set at the end, every time I thought about stopping, I realized that I could do a little more and a little more.

I was able to do a full set for the first time since before my surgery! It felt great. Imperfect, but great. I realized that I don’t know what it feels like to do Tai Chi with a good knee. I’m sure that I’ve been compensating for the injured joint for the entire last five years. Now I have the interesting journey ahead of adjusting and practicing with the new joint. Already I know that the knee is more stable. The strength isn’t there, but it will come and I can adjust and improve as it does. I’m really enjoying this process!

My three month follow up appointment with my surgeon is coming up a week from tomorrow. I hope he’s going to be as pleased with my progress as I am. I also hope that he’ll clear me to go back to rowing class. I’ve missed that a lot, primarily for the overall strengthening, particularly my core, and the great cardio workout.

I already know that it will be a challenge to incorporate rowing back into my life if I’m also doing the machines a few times a week. That said, I’ll find a way to make it work. Maybe I won’t be able to row three times a week at first, but anything will be a good start.

The most difficult, hardest part of recovery is behind me. I’m so happy with where I am today and looking forward to continuing to move on!

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Seven Weeks

My knee replacement surgery was seven weeks ago. I know I’m improving but the rehab work continues to be hard. Today was my last covered PT session. I’ve decided to continue and pay out of pocket, even while I try to convince my health insurance company to authorize more sessions 

If I stop, I lose the momentum progress and it would be tough to regain with a lengthy break. The therapist and I talked. I’ll go for two sessions a week where a therapist works on me and then an extra session where I can work on the machines they gave me do. 

The treadmill, bike, squat board and weighted plates all are helpful. However, the hands on pushing, pulling and forcing of my leg truly take my leg extension and flexion further than I can get on my own. 

Small wonder that those are the activities that hurt the most. Pain signifies gain, for real. I have two weeks before I am then away for a conference. I am determined to make the most of those weeks. 

This journey has started to wreak havoc with my emotions. I’m starting to roller coaster a bit and noticing that I began to use carbs and sugar in a misguided disease way to balance myself out. 

That’s not the way to handle the situation.  I need to stop eating off plan and ride the feelings. Even when I’m uncomfortable 

I had a two hour PT session today with hard effort. I hurt. I’m also inexplicably sad to the point of weepiness. I hate crying but that’s where I am. So if I need to cry, I will – rather than bury the feelings in chocolate chips. It will be far healthier for me to grab an ice pack and  a book and go to bed. 

Tomorrow is another day to strive for progress. 

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Recovery Rollercoaster

Yesterday was a great day in physical therapy as far as I’m concerned. The therapist really worked me even harder than usual. I pushed and pushed and took myself further past pain than I thought I could. We achieved 125 degree of flex in my knee. I walked out of there exhausted but elated. The feeling stayed with me all night. I didn’t even mind when I woke up at 1 a.m. with pain and needed to go set up the ice therapy machine so I could cool and calm my leg. I did some email and other work for an hour or so and the was able to fall back asleep.

Normally I have PT sessions on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. This week, we had a special work related event on Monday so I needed to schedule Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday. Today, I got a clearer idea of one of the issues. I’m hitting the knee flexion goal and making progress on the leg straightening goal when I’m in a session. I’m not currently maintaining those markers in between sessions. Even though I do exercises at home, apparently I’m not doing enough, or working as hard as I need to.

I thought I was. I know it’s more challenging to do them as often now that I’m going into the office every day, but I’m not ignoring the exercises. I push myself, too.

Today, this all translated emotionally into my old, diseased B.I.N.G.E. thinking as in Believing I’m Not Good Enough. I thought I was kicking ass on my recovery and doing really well. ¬†Now I feel like I’m behind and I know I’m not where I want to be – and where we strive to get me.

Even worse, my insurance authorized 20 sessions. Friday will be session 18. That means I only have a few more sessions to reach and maintain the goals. I’m a little freaked out by that and it has added to my diseased thinking. I need to step back and evaluate. The clinic suggested I contact the insurance agent who acts as my employer’s liaison with the health insurance company. Maybe, just maybe, we can get the company to authorize some more sessions. I’m going to speak to the head therapy guy on Friday to see how many he thinks I might need. He’s the therapist that usually works with me and knows exactly where I am in my recovery progress.

If the insurance company won’t authorize more sessions and I only need a couple, I can pay out of pocket, providing they aren’t wildly expensive. The clinic also offers a wellness program where I could go in at will and use the equipment. Some people I know use that program and it’s pretty reasonable. While I wouldn’t have the benefit of the therapists manually manipulating my muscles to encourage them, I could use the treadmill, the bike, and the universal gym to work on those knee flexing-squats.

I can also call my surgeon and find out when I can go back to rowing. I might be able to use that exercise to work on the straightening and rebuilding the strength of my right leg.

In short, there are options. I need to get out of my emotional response and look at the situation logically and objectively. Not only will that help me plan, it will also help me stop eating compulsively the way that I did today. (It was one of those days where lots of inappropriate food was around me and I indulged in all of it.) Bingeing and gaining back the weight I’ve lost over the last six weeks will not make me feel any better.

Tomorrow I can also devise a better strategy for getting in more rehab exercises at home and at work. I can do sets of them in the morning and evening. The therapist showed me a leg straightener I can do on the bottom step of any staircase. So , I can get some of those reps in at work and also find a chair to do the knee flexing exercise.  There are ways.

Yes, this recovery and rehabilitation effort is a bit of a rollercoaster right now, but one thing I know for sure. Just like on a real rollercoaster, you can’t jump off in the middle of the ride. I have to see it through and continue to channel my determination into concrete, hard work and effort.

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Five Weeks and Counting

Hi, Everyone. I haven’t kept up with my blogging recently. I plead exhaustion. Recovery from knee replacement surgery is hard work and there have been some other issues effecting me too.

All in all things are good. I am able to drive myself again, which is a huge boost. It feels great to have my independence back. It’s also made it easier for me to return to work on site if not for full eight hour days. I can go where I want, when I want and this makes me feel much more efficient and less needy.

I worry less when I can be at work. Even though there are many things I can do remotely from home, it just isn’t the same as being present with my co-workers, able to easily dial an extension or walk down the hall to consult, etc.

The downside is that I am not able to stretch out on a couch anywhere or take a nap when I need to. Oh, those naps are important. For the first four weeks, even with the stronger medications, I could not sleep through the night. Without fail, a couple hours after I fell asleep, pain would wake me up. Then I’d need to ice my leg, sit up for a while, and give my body time to settle down again before I could fall back to sleep. ¬†These interrupted nights really drained my energy during the day. I treasured the ability to nap and restore when I was home every day.

Last weekend, I finally saw a shift where the pain episodes lessened in both intensity and frequency. I got two great nights of sleep in a row! I noticed that I was easing off of the strongest of the pain medications and eventually also reducing the number of times I relied on the second strongest prescription. Most of the time I could get by with the extra strength acetaminophen the surgeon recommended. This made me very happy.

Then something strange happened. This might venture a little into the “too much info” category, so don’t say I didn’t warn you.

The night after my two great nights of sleep, I was woken up about every hour to an hour and a half by the need to pee. Six times a night, no lie! I couldn’t figure it out. I wasn’t drinking gallons of water during the day or having any liquid at all after 7 or 8 at night when I finished a cup of herbal tea. This made no sense and, after four straight nights of it I was so sleep deprived that it made even less than no sense. I was like a zombie yesterday at work.

I Googled the issue very specifically. Don’t laugh but you actually can find suggested pages in answer to the search sentence of “Increased urination at night after knee replacement surgery”. I found a couple of forums where other people who’d had joint replacements complained of the same thing. Nobody had an answer or a reason, but at least I wasn’t alone. I also spotted a couple of references to a connection between increased urination and discontinuing opioid use.

I called my primary care physician and got in the next morning for a urinalysis. I may be one of the few people in history to be disappointed over not having a urinary tract infection. Sadly, after a lengthy discussion, the doctor didn’t have any concrete suggestions either. I was offered a prescription for overactive bladder, even though I wasn’t having the problem during the day. She also suggested an ultrasound just to make sure that structurally nothing was going on. I asked if I could wait a few days to see if the issue resolved and she agreed.

Have I mentioned before that my wonderful sister-in-law is an adult primary care nurse practitioner and has been for more than 30 years? Honestly, there isn’t a medical professional that I trust more than her so I texted her about what was going on. She did some research and sent me a great and thorough article on nocturia. We then talked at length last night. She agreed with my plan to give it a few days and see if it resolved. We talked about the possibility of an opioid connection. She did some more research and texted me today that she saw several references.

So, that is my current theory. ¬†If this is the root of the problem, then the longer I’m off the stronger meds, the more the situation should resolve. Last night was already a little better. I only woke up four times instead of six. It’s now been 48 hours since I’ve had anything other than acetaminophen. Hopefully, this means that I’ll sleep even better tonight!

In the midst of all this, my physical therapy efforts continue. This week’s sessions were brutal. I freely admit that I felt like a big baby on Monday because I yelped a few times when the therapist was manually manipulating my leg, pushing and pulling on it to straighten it even more. I’d like to pretend that I was sweating but, to be honest, those were tears leaking out of my eyes. ¬†I actually felt kind of down about it because I pride myself on not being a wimp. I felt a lot better at Wednesday’s session when the therapist told me that he’d worked my leg extra hard or, in his words, “beat you up pretty hard last time.”

With extreme effort, I can make the knee flexion goal. ¬†It requires some interesting positioning and pushing, but I get there. As far as the straightening, I’m really close to goal as long as the therapist is pushing down on my leg. Unfortunately, I have not yet reached the point where I can straighten it as far as I want to and keep it straight on my own. Close. Oh so close with effort, strain and pain, but not there yet.

Yes, I’m a little frustrated. The female therapist is a little more nurturing than the male practitioner. When he tells me that I’m a little behind schedule, she tells me to focus on the progress and improvement I’ve made since last week. She’s also the one who reminds me that my knee is still healing. At least today he also said that my leg is straighter tha it was and that my knee was bending and performing better when I was on the bike. They both remind me to keep doing exercises at home and to keep pushing myself. All three of us are in agreement on those points.

So, the week ahead is more of the same. Work, therapy, exercises. Keep moving with determination and effort to the eventual goals. At this point, the straightening of my leg is probably “good enough”, but that’s not really good enough for any of us. We want me to be the best that I can be.

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Entering the Fourth Week

I’m a few days shy of the fourth week anniversary of my knee surgery. Yes, I’m seeing improvement. My mobility is pretty good, my pain is reduced most of the time and I’m confident that I can return to driving. I’m not 100% by any means but the improvement definitely increasing.

I still have periodic episodes of pain in other parts of my leg. I believe these episodes are related to how active I might have been in the 12-24 hours prior. Saturday I went to Tai Chi class. Even though I only did Tai Chi from the chair, I then went to friends’ for lunch (up a flight of stairs), then did a little shopping. ¬†That same night, I had a function to go to and I know that I was on my feet walking around for more than an hour before sitting down to dinner. On Sunday, the ache and throbbing in my glute and down the side of my leg were significant. I took it easy all day so last night and today are completely different. ¬†My massage therapist can help with the rest of the leg so I have an appointment scheduled with her tomorrow.

At this point, I think I can reclaim more of my independence. I spoke to my physical therapist about it and he gave me a great suggestion. He said that before I actually drive anywhere I should sit in my car with it not on and practice moving my foot back and forth between the accelerator and the brake to test how it feels and my reaction time. I did that for a few minutes yesterday and it felt pretty good. So, I turned on the car and just drove up and down my quiet street. I even practiced jamming on the brake to see how my knee felt and it was fine.

My final test will be this afternoon. I’m still accepting a ride to P.T. from a neighbor. Then, after I get home from having put my leg through a lot in therapy, I’m going to do the same assessment in my car. If I feel that I can drive even after my leg has worked and is tired, then I will feel confident driving.

My caveat will be that I will not drive if I’ve taken a stronger pain killer. Under the influence of a narcotic pain med, I would be too worried about my cognitive reaction time and reflexes to risk being behind the wheel. If I’m only on acetaminophen, I should be fine. I’m already taking the stronger prescriptions far less frequently than I was in the beginning, which is another sign of my continuing recovery.

I plan to go into work tomorrow, Wednesday and Friday for half days and then again for a couple of hours to take care of a special project on Saturday.  This will help me ease back in so that I can get back to work closer to full time next week.

On other fronts, I’m still doing really well with my food intake. I have definitely noticed that as I cut back on the narcotics, my appetite began to increase. I’m aware of it and alert for it, so that I can be prepared. It doesn’t matter if I get hungrier as long as I don’t start making inappropriate choices. I’m so pleased that I’ve lost weight every week since my surgery which is a longer trend than I’ve experienced in quite some time. I want to build on this trend, keep going and, finally/eventually reach my goal weight.

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Doing Better

After my mini-meltdown at the beginning of the week, I’ve had steady improvement in my mood and my physical recovery. ¬†Last night I had the best night of sleep that I’ve had since the surgery. (Monday was the second best sleep.) It’s amazing how good rest can help the other aspects of your life balance out.

After the painful effort of Monday’s therapy, my leg felt looser and more flexible on Tuesday. At Wednesday’s session, we pushed hard again and gained additional improvement. I’m ready to go at it again tomorrow and have been working on my exercises at home.

My emotions evened out and I got over the strong desire to weep and feel sorry for myself. I tried to focus on the positives to help my mindset. I didn’t want to invalidate the things I was feeling, but I didn’t want to wallow in them either.

I also received some great suggestions from readers here and some friends on how to address that other physical issue. Thankfully, efforts in that area are working, too!

Today I had a little pampering with a manicure and pedicure. Right after that, I walked next door to the acupuncturist’s office for a terrific treatment. With that boost, I then went into work for a few hours. I’d told myself all week that I would do so and I am so glad that I was feeling up to it.

It was so good to be on the grounds again to see my work-family and, of course, the dolphins. I was so happy, I got weepy for a few minutes. After visiting a little, I went into my office and dug into some projects. It felt great to be there. Even though I have been doing some work at home, it isn’t the same feeling as being in the office, focusing, with all of the tools and information I need around me.

That said, after four hours when 5 p.m. rolled around, I was ready to leave. Although I didn’t fall into a nap when I got dropped off at home, I knew that my body was ready to take it easy for the rest of the night.

Thank you everyone for your support and encouragement. They helped me get through the rough spot, process, and keep moving forward.

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Cheese and Whine

If you don’t want to read a post that mostly includes me whining, I’ll understand.

If you’re still here, well, you were warned. I’m sorry, everyone. I’m doing my best to keep up a good, strong, fighting spirit during my recovery. For the most part, I’m succeeding, I think. Today, however, I’m just not feeling it. Instead I’m feeling the pain, the frustration and the sleep deprivation.

It is all well and good for me to understand that I have to keep pushing myself in physical therapy. If we don’t keep forcing the muscles, tendons and other parts of my leg, I will not achieve the straightness, extension and flexion I desire. These things were compromised from years of a degenerating knee. Improvement is a challenge. I know all of this intellectually but, damn it, in today’s therapy session the pain and effort got to me. I wanted my leg to just. be. better. Right then and there I wanted it to be where I know it will be eventually. I resented every repetition of every exercise, even while I was striving my hardest to push, to press, to straighten, to bend.

I didn’t whine audibly, although I did cry out a couple of times when the therapist was physically manipulating my leg. I refused to give up or ask to stop. Instead I dug deep, told myself to suck it up and kept working, kept pressing, kept going for more. My therapist said that we made progress and that my leg was straighter at the end of the session. I’m glad he could see it because I couldn’t, and I couldn’t feel anything but tired and sore.

After that I went to my massage therapist to see if she could help me with the nightly problem that is creating my sleep deprivation. Every night, I fall asleep and then a couple of hours later a persistent, annoying, powerful ache wakes me up. It starts in my right glute, travels down my leg, often crosses over the quads and can go down into my calf and shin. It doesn’t matter that I take a pain pill before I go to bed and have even been using a sleeping pill on the suggestion of my surgeon. Once the ache wakes me up, I’m then up for two to three hours. I come out into the living room and try shifting lots of positions to find one where I’m more comfortable. ¬†Depending on what temperature I think will feel better, I either warm up the heating pad or use the ice machine cooling contraption.

I’m worried about taking pain pills too close together so I hold off as long as possible to the right time before I take another dose. ¬†That’s all well and good, but it takes a while for the medication to get into my system and help. ¬†Sometimes I just give up on the idea of going back to sleep and just start doing stuff around the house, banking on getting in naps during the day. ¬†Even though I can take those naps, the interrupted sleep really throws me off mentally and emotionally.

I’m tired of it. I want a good night’s sleep. I resent the pain.

Look, I knew to expect a period of pain, intense pain, after surgery. I just honestly thought that I would be experiencing significantly less by this point. Maybe I am. ¬†No, probably I am, but it just doesn’t feel like it today.

The massage therapist worked on me for an hour. She doesn’t just do tissue massage, but instead feels for the nerves, the circulation, the muscles and how everything connects and affects the other parts of my leg. I believe that I started to experience some relief and she confirmed better blood and energy flow so, I am cautiously hopeful that tonight will be better.

She and I are friends and have know each other for several years. Because of that, I felt comfortable discussing another complaint. If you watch television much, you’ve probably see ads with people talking about opioid related constipation. Folks, that’s not something created by pharmaceutical companies. It’s a real thing and it sucks. I do not want to call my doctor and ask for yet another prescription medicine. Instead, I’m trying to correct the problem with a special herbal tea, prunes and, today, my letting my massage therapist work on some of my internal organs too. Please, let’s all be hopeful.

I got home from my appointments and experienced a big, emotional let down. ¬†I’m just tired of hurting, not sleeping, being constipated and everything else. Tonight, it’s all getting to me and I think I may even need to indulge in a good cry to let everything out.

Tomorrow, I’ll pick myself up and get back in the game but tonight, I needed the whine. Thanks for listening.



Things Knee Replacement Surgery is Teaching Me

It’s now two weeks and two days since my knee replacement surgery. I continue to make progress in my rehabilitation. Although I still have periods of significant pain and discomfort, those periods don’t last as long and the pain isn’t acute.

This experience is teaching me a few things about myself, or at least reinforcing some things that I might know but don’t necessarily always acknowledge.

I’ve learned that my stubborn determination serves me well when it comes to doing physical therapy. Remember that in order for my leg extension and ability to flex/bend my knee to improve, we have to push the muscles. We can’t stop at the first twinge of discomfort. I refuse to wimp out during P.T. When the therapist encourages me to push, stretch or bend more, I keep trying, even if it hurts. I have a goal to achieve as good a range of motion as absolutely possible and I won’t let anything – not even myself, block me from reaching that goal.

I’ve also learned that my stubborn determination can be a detriment when I want to force myself to do other things that my body just isn’t ready for quite yet. I think I mentioned before that I had it in my head that I would go back to work part-time next week. Nobody else was pushing me to do this. It was all in my own brain. I realized a few days ago that this is an unrealistic expectation. I need to have the ability to shift position, stretch out on the couch sometimes, and take a nap from time to time. I can’t do that at the office. Once I accepted that going back onsite at the three-week-post surgery mark would not serve me well, I was actually more at ease. I also saw that there is a significant amount of work that I can accomplish from home so I’m still getting things done.

See, that’s something else that has been reinforced. While I can revel in the occasional lazy day, or enjoy a glorious two week vacation, I am not wired to be at home and be unproductive for a long stretch of time. It is better for me mentally and emotionally to check in on work and do what I can from here.

Finally, I’ve learned that it really is okay to ask for help and that my discomfort with doing so eases with practice. My neighbors and friends have been super about transporting me to therapy or offering to get me what I need from the store. I will never be one of those people who takes advantage of the helpful offers, but I no longer need to feel guilty or uncomfortable with accepting the sincere assistance from people who care about me.

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